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26th October 2015

Advice Column

Our resident Agony Aunt answers your relationship Q of the week
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I started seeing this guy, but then I met someone else who I instantly knew was the better one for me. Should I be honest with the first one? Do I owe him that or can I just let it fizzle out?

Dear…

“Honesty is the best policy” is a mantra that should be ingrained into everyone as a child, and this is even more relevant in every relationship you should have or should wish to embark on. This value is too sacrosanct to sacrifice… period. You have to question how feasible it is for you start something new if you haven’t finished the old?

Furthermore, put yourself in his position, do you think it’s fair for him to be strung along whilst remaining uncertain, and maybe full of hope of starting a new budding relationship, whilst you know the likelihood of this happening is slim to none. At the end of the day, the person’s feelings you are protecting are yours and yours alone and it is not fair on Guy A as ultimately he will be the one that suffers. It’s never easy ending something, but I recommend doing so soon. Let the guy get over you and find something new, and stop taking him for a ride.


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